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Hello, my friends, how are you? I hope that your week is going well I hope your year is going well. My year is going amazing. So far, I know stuff is so crazy. But I don’t know I’m just kind of like living my life and really getting into good habits, and some motivation, upgrading a lot of my, my life in a bunch of different areas. And I just feel like I’m progressing. It feels good, it feels really good. Um, and one thing that I had did recently that I am super excited about is that I am upgrading my queen size bed to king size bed. Oh, I’m so excited. I love me a king sized bed. They’re just they’re so nice. The rooms are spacious. And you know, I love cuddling. But yeah, long as you have your space, and it feels good. It just feels luxurious. So it’s funny though, because it got me really thinking because when I, once I ordered it, I kind of freaked out, my brain started freaking out. And I kept telling myself, Oh, you know, a queen size bed is fine, the queen size bed works, there’s enough space, like, we don’t really need it, we don’t really need a king size bed, it felt really super luxurious, to upgrade to this king size bed, especially when a queen size bed works fine. And it was like I didn’t allow myself to deserve it. Or I didn’t feel like I should get it. Because again, like what I have is perfectly fine. It’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with it. We have enough space, even my cat fits. But we upgraded anyways. And it was so fascinating to watch my brain freak out at this upgrade, and look for this justification as to why I should upgrade. And I really didn’t have any reason except that I wanted to. And it felt good. And it was fun. I mean, I love going to an Airbnb and you have a king size bed. That is like a highlight of my trip. And so it was just weird to watch myself freak out. And it got me thinking about how we do this in our careers. 

I want you to think about how many times you have left a job. Because it was no longer working and it felt terrible. That’s usually how we change jobs. I don’t know. I mean, that’s how I’ve changed jobs. And that’s why I went from one job to the next job the next job. And interestingly enough, my problems just kept following me around. I wonder why. So I want you to think, when was the last time you had a really amazing job, you had a really amazing career. And you still decided to leave. It’s really the difference of making a decision out of scarcity and lack and negativity and letting the negative emotion and experience drive your actions. Versus coming from a place of abundance. Where you know everything is amazing, you know that you can love where you are. And you still make that decision to leave. This is something that I teach my clients and they don’t always want to hear. You should love your job before you leave. They don’t always want to hear that because they’re like, fed up, they’re ready to get out and I get it like I was 100% there. But here’s my argument for working to love your job first before you leave. Is that when you can appreciate the job that you’re in and why you have it in what it’s doing for your life. How it’s serving you, and how you are within that job. How are you showing up? What is your role, if you can appreciate all of that making the decision to leave feels even more solid and rights. And this is how you don’t regret your decisions. Because you knew exactly how to love that job. Even if it wasn’t perfect for you, even if it had some problems, you still saw the value in it, and you made the decision to leave. It’s kind of like how Apple will put out updates, program update, like I mean, it feels like every single week, but whatever. It’s not that the program was bad. It’s not that the program didn’t work, it ran fine. And yes, it had some problems. And so you upgrade, and then the next program, the upgrade is also going to be fine. And it’s going to have some problems. But it’s not going to have the same problems. This is how your career works. Finding your job finding an amazing life that you want.

You want to upgrade from a place of abundance, because that is when you’ve cleaned out everything, all the problems that have been chasing you around over and over. It is so incredibly frustrating. When you hop from job to job, maybe career to career. And each time that you find a new job, a new position, kind of the same problems arise, you get bored, you get frustrated, you feel like crap, you feel insecure, you don’t know what you want to do. Those issues will keep coming up. If you change your job, because you think that the new job is going to make you feel different. It’s like looking for an external solution to solve an internal problem. But I get why people change jobs. I, I did it I had so many jobs. And I have thought that working at an art museum would feel good, I thought that we’re getting a natural history museum would feel good. I thought that all the things outside of me were going to make me feel like I was competent. And I had made it. But when I got to the Science Museum, and it was a dream job, and I had dream bosses and I worked with amazing people, and there was so much to do and so much opportunity, I still felt terrible about myself, because I hadn’t defined what it is. That’s important to me what my values were in what I wanted in a job, what I wanted in a career, and what I wanted in a career that fits the lifestyle that I wanted. But going back to this idea of making a decision out of abundance versus lack, it’s so much harder to make a decision when everything is falling apart. It seems like it’s easier because you’re triggered by the desperation that’s need for something different. It doesn’t make the decision easier. It just makes you more desperate to get out faster.

And so this is where the natural kind of instinct is to go change your circumstances to go find something different. But when you do that, and you find something new. Sure, there’s a bunch of new stuff to distract you and, and keep you away from thinking about the problem. And so for me, when I started working at the Academy of Sciences, there was so much to get distracted with. I mean, we had a rainforest, we had an albino Alligator, I could go eat lunch in the coral reef aquarium, and it was fine and amazing. Until it started to become familiar. And, you know, the coral reef just didn’t sound interesting. I’ve been there 100 times I don’t need to eat lunch in there again. So once that novelty, that newness of a job wears off, and all of a sudden, all those old problems start popping up again, because they were never dealt with to begin with. And so then the pattern is to stew and feel horrible, and then you’re triggered by all this negativity again, and then you’re ready to get out. You want to run from this problem. But this is where I encourage you and I encourage my clients To stop at this moment, and this is the work, this is what you need to face, before you make the decision to leave, before you change everything, making that decision to leave your job when you know how good it is, and you can see the value in it, you know how it’s serving you, and you feel confident in it doesn’t make the decision to leave less scary. Oh, when I was transitioning out of my job, and I was making that decision, and let me tell you, this could be a whole podcast on its own. The decision not just like a tiny little decision. It’s like a lot of decisions that you got to make. And, yeah, I’ll do a podcast on that. But when I was making this decision, I was scared, I was so afraid that I was going to make the wrong decision. And then I would regret my decision. But what I feared more, was not making the decision to leave was not going after that dream life that had always imagined that dream career that I’ve always wanted. And I was also sad, there was a lot, a lot of sadness in making this decision. Because there was a lot of stuff I was giving up that I really, truly enjoyed. I mean, I can’t even tell you how many times I called my sister crying, saying how scared and sad, I really knew that I had to make this decision for myself, because I would regret not going after this. And I think back to my old job, and I really, truly miss it. And I, I love that I was a part of that I’m so proud to have had that as part of my career, and to have had that experience. But I don’t look back at it with any regrets. I do not regret my decision at all. Because I know that I loved that job in that career to its capacity. And I still wanted to leave. And that was so exciting. Yes, it was scary. And I was sad. I was also so excited. I felt alive, I felt like I was not being driven by fear anymore. I felt like I was courageous and strong and more confident about who I am and what I want. And that I’ve never experienced before. And it’s because I was making this decision, not from a place of I need to fix something, I something’s wrong. I made it from a place from of everything is great. My wife is amazing. And I still want to change it. I told myself, every time that this fear came up, a monster that I would tell myself is I’m trading good for great. Because that’s what you’re doing. You’re upgrading your life, you’re upgrading your perfectly good life, there’s nothing wrong with your life.

You might just want something more, you want something bigger. And that’s okay, that’s exactly why we upgrade. And let me tell you, you might have problems now. But you are also going to have problems later. problems do not go away. They’re just different problems. Or maybe they’re like the same problem, but a different iteration iteration. Trust me, you’re going to have different problems. But that, to me, is so much more thrilling and challenging. And that’s where the growth is. Because I’m not dealing with the same problem over and over again. That’s why we feel stuck. That’s why we feel like nothing’s happening. We’re not progressing in our life is because we’re dealing with the same problem over and over and not fixing it. It’s like watching your friend who keeps choosing the same guy over and over again. And they wonder why they keep picking these horrible guys. Because they’re not learning from their mistakes and the problem of the last relationship and they’re just taking the problems from the last relationship into the new relationship. It’s the same with your career. You have problems now if you’re trying to run from them, and you’re not learning from them, you’re going to take them into the next job. So I want you to ask yourself, How do you feel about your work How is it serving you? How is it not serving you? Do you believe that you will feel differently in a new job? And why? How will that new job be better? And how will it be the same? And what are the problems that keep repeating themselves? And the last question, which I think is the most important question, because this is truly going to reveal what it is you want to do. And it’s, what would you do? If you could do anything right now? Would that be because I guarantee you, there’s so many people out there telling themselves, they can’t do something that they want to do? And in reality, it’s just the next step, the next problem? It’s the next upgrade and the iteration of your life? It’s the next mountain to conquer. That is where the growth is. And let me tell you, growth is uncomfortable. Yes. Like I said, it’s scary. It’s uncomfortable, it feels different. But is so much better than feeling stuck and repeating the same problem, the same issues, the same frustrations over and over and over again. So what are you going to choose? Which discomfort will you choose the discomfort of staying stuck with the discomfort of growth, and where do you need to grow first. If you feel like you’re running from your job, if you are thinking that somewhere else is going to be better, that’s going to be your work. Learn how to love your job, see and appreciate what your job is giving you first and then make the decision to leave. This is how you make a decision out of abundance. And this is how you minimize the you’re of regret. Because you’re not going to regret your decision. If you love your job and you still decide to leave, you’re going to know, you’re going to know that you made it work to the best of your abilities, and you still wanted to leave. And if you’re at a place where you actually do love and appreciate your job, and you see the value of the work and your role there. That’s perfect. You’re in the perfect position to make that decision for what’s next. It’s your next goal. It’s the next evolution of your career. And it’s the next evolution of you.

All right. All of this came out of upgrading my bed from a queen to a king. I’m so excited, it’s going to be more spacious. It’s going to be more fun, just like your career, just like your life. And I’m so excited to see what you create. All right. If you got something out of this, if you learn something I want to know come over to Instagram and say hello, I want to hear about how maybe you’ve been making decisions out of that lack. Like you’re waiting for things to just fall apart and be horrible for you to finally make a decision to get something better and upgrade your life. Or if you realize that you’ve been making these decisions out of abundance, and you’re like, yeah, my life is fantastic. And I just want to be even more fantastic. So come over to Instagram and leave me a comment. I want to hear from you. I want to connect with you. I want to answer your questions about this topic about this concept and any other questions you have. I would love to help you with whatever it is you’re wondering about that you’ve never really known how to do. I met you. Alright, I will see you next time. If you enjoyed this episode, then come connect with me at Christy towns.com I want to hear your biggest takeaways, your aha moments. And I want you to ask me any burning questions you might have about what it means to create your livelihood. And don’t forget to help spread the joy by leaving me a five star review in iTunes and sharing this episode with a friend, a loved one a colleague, because I am on a mission to revolutionize the way we think about careers because I really truly believe that every single one of us deserves a career that makes us feel alive. I’m so excited to be on this journey with you and I will see you on the next episode.